And it's not our fault that we have all the ladies / But it's hard to see these ladies when your middle name's Equator / All around the globe, matter fact, see you later. Usually we discipline in the moment and don’t give much thought to why we are doing it other than we want a certain behavior to stop. Done with love, followed by guidance/teaching and respect, which are some of the 7 Traits of Effective Parenting. Plus, when you subscribe, I'll also send you a copy of our strategy-packed guide 10 Tips for Better Behavior – Starting NOW!

Warning: if you are thinking of spanking your child on their bare bottom, keep in mind that while this allows you to visualize the effects of the spanking on the child's buttocks and can prevent you from hitting too hard, potential (and more than likely) negative effects include the risk of the spanking being more painful than intended or being emotionally humiliating to the child. Used correctly and infrequently as part of a comprehensive parenting toolkit, a spank can be that last resort discipline method you use when you need to create attention and a clear understanding why the behavior should never happen again.However, instilling discipline in our children is so important that I thought it was necessary to go here.

NFL running back Adrian Peterson’s recent arrest for allegedly abusing his four-year-old son has once again sparked the debate over whether spanking is an appropriate form of discipline. However, not controversial is the idea that every parent does well to invest in developing an effective and comprehensive discipline toolkit, which requires intentionality and adaptability, two of the 7 Traits of Effective Parenting. I’ve talked my friends’ ears off about romances gone awry, career setbacks, familial disagreements — but the dire truth is, I’m sad because my brain is wired to be sad.So spanking, when used judiciously, appropriately, and in combination with other disciplinary techniques, can be a helpful part of training our children. While we may be applying the Pavlov’s dog conditioning technique when we spank our children (through an attempt to make them stop their actions in fear of pain), the idea of teaching this through hitting is–at best–hypocritical. The way we were going to turn out was important to them and they didn’t take the easy road that so many advocate now. This means the kid who always causes trouble and seems SO bad and is SO easy to blame–doesn’t need to be berated or spanked. How spanking has these effects comes down to the release of feel-good endorphins and hormones such as oxytocin, dopamine, and adrenaline.