Women Who Think Too Much: How to break free of overthinking and reclaim your life

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Nevertheless, you have always known deep down that you are dissatisfied with a life that is meaningless and task-driven. Explore the career sketch provided in chapter ten. Were you able to relate to Abby's impulsive job change? How would you have responded if you were Gina, Abby's roommate? For some unnamed reason, you feel a weight of responsibility on your shoulder, even for things you are not responsible for.

Chapter eleven mentions that optimists appear to fight illness more successfully than pessimists. Consider the ways in which this mind-body connection has affected your own health and that of your family.Overthinking is a national epidemic among young and middle aged adults but is relatively rare among older adults: 73 percent of 25-35 year-olds overthink compared to 52 percent of 45-55 year-olds and just 20 percent of 65-75 year-olds. To be fair, this book was slightly off-topic from what I was looking for help with so while I didn't find the advice useful in a lot of ways that could be why. This book is mostly about how modern women can get caught in cycles of overthinking and obsessing over stressful situations and how to break out of that cycle. My issue that I was looking for help with was how to re-train my brain to recall happy memories more easily in place of recalling unpleasant past experiences. There was some advice that crossed over but a lot of it seemed inapplicable.

Carey, Benedict (13 January 2013). "Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Psychologist Who Studied Depression in Women, Dies at 53". The New York Times.Developmental studies of explanatory style, and learned helplessness in children (depression) (1986) It's views on depression were out-dated, talking about how 'misfiring brains' lead to depression, as if the brain is the cause of everything, and that our happiness (or unhappiness) is completely isolated and unaffected by our environment. In reality, research has consistently shown that our environments affect our brains and their functioning, and the main contributors to depression are largely environmental (see Lost Connections by Johann Hari). Do not let the thoughts win. Separate your observer-self from your thoughts. Mindfulness and meditation courses can teach you how to do this, and the key is to keep practicing it on a daily basis. This type of overthinking begins innocently as we notice we're feeling upset or when we ponder a recent event. Then we begin to entertain possible causes for our feelings about the events. Overthinking causes us to exaggerate problems and make bad decisions.

Over-thinking can start off as innocuously as hearing a colleague say that she will be wearing thongs to a corporate event. You then start to question ‘why did she say it in ear shot’? Is she doing it to show you up? Then you remember the time she did humiliate you. Your thoughts go through any number of possibilities until you reach the conclusion that you will probably lose your job as she is setting you up to fail. But it doesn’t end there. You can keep going further; worrying about how you will survive without income, worrying about who will employ you and worrying that you will be evicted. One comment about casual footwear sets you spiralling in to a journey of negativity. Kaiser BN, Haroz EE, Kohrt BA, Bolton PA, Bass JK, Hinton DE. "Thinking too much": A systematic review of a common idiom of distress. Soc Sci Med. 2016;147:170-183. doi:10.1016/j.socscimed.2015.10.044 From 1986 to 1995, she was a faculty member at Stanford University receiving tenure in 1993. From 1995 to 2004 she was a tenured professor at the University of Michigan in the Personality Area. From 2004 to 2013, Nolen-Hoeksema was a professor and researcher at Yale, as well as the head of the Yale Depression and Cognition Program. [6]Along the way she published scores of studies and a popular textbook. In 2003 she became the editor of the Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, an influential journal. Being perceptively gifted means you can sense and perceive things that others miss. With acute awareness, you can see beyond superficiality, grasp patterns, and make linkages. Rnic K, Dozois DJ, Martin RA. Cognitive distortions, humor styles, and depression. Eur J Psychol. 2016;12(3):348-362. doi:10.5964/ejop.v12i3.1118 From one of the nation's preeminent experts on women and emotion, a breakthrough new book about how to stop negative thinking and become more productive

Honoring a Lifetime of Achievement: Susan K. Nolen-Hoeksema". Association for Psychological Science. 23 April 2013 . Retrieved 2013-06-12. You have an innate urge to push the boundaries of conformity, to question or to challenge traditions, particularly those that seem meaningless or unfair. Paired with a strong sense of justice, you are often frustrated with corruption and inequality in the world. Over-thinking has reached epidemic proportions, particularly among women, who are more prone to it than men, Susan Nolen-Hoeksema wrote in ‘Women who think too much’. So, what is over-thinking? Widiger, Thomas; Cannon, Tyrone D. (March 2013), "In Memoriam: Susan Nolen-Hoeksema", Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 9 (1), doi: 10.1146/annurev-cp-9-031513-100001 As a child, you might have resorted to your imagined world as a haven in times of emotional turmoils.usually centers on some wrong we believe has been done to us. Women prone to this kind of overthinking tend to take on an air of wounded self-righteousness and focus on designing retribution that will severely sting our victimizers. You may resonate with traits of being an " empath," due to your innate ability to feel and be affected by other people's energies. In social situations, you can intuitively identify with others' emotions, and you may feel that you "absorb" their physical and mental ailment, to the point where you get overwhelmed. Nolen-Hoeksema, Susan; Ganji, Hamzeh; Jahangiri, Hamideh (2020). Psychotherapy of depression in elderly Volume 1. Scholar's Press. ISBN 978-613-8-94228-3.